Incarcerated Chivalry

October 6, 2015 Written By Rameesha Roy

Chivalry

It is an art. An art of prestige and privilege. It definitely has a history which refers to the manners and unparalleled etiquettes of the medieval knights, but it has transformed, like many other things, to fit in this modern era.

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Modern Chivalry

When we refer to modern chivalry, instances of doors being opened by men, meals being paid for by suited men, come to mind. Yet, why don’t we conceptualize women as being chivalrous? 

Even if you are a woman, I can bet you did not picture yourself or any other female opening a door for a man at the mention of chivalry. The point here is not to wage a war against men doing chivalrous acts. In fact, it is great that they have not forgotten the olden ways of civility. The point here, however, is that why is this only confined to men? 

As far as I know, chivalry should not  be narrowed down to a gender. It is a very colossal and unswayed practice. You don’t have to be a man to show that you are happily willing to pay for the dinner you and your spouse just had. And in my view, it should be perfectly normal for a woman to open the door of the car for her family or partner. Prejudice has extended to every other thing in our society and like those things, chivalry is also being paralyzed by the conventional stances about this trait. Why must we limit it to men only? 

It is very lovely to see a man pay for you; be it your father, brother, husband, etc. But will it be equally endearing if a mother, sister or a wife pays for the same? 

It is undoubtedly a delightful feeling to have doors opened for you by a guy. But will it be okay if a girl holds them for you?

Will a man’s ego and the society’s perceptions not stand in the way of women’s chivalry? 

The answer should be simple and affirmative but dismally, it is not. Patriarchy tethers the legs of this budding institution. The erstwhile thoughts still occlude the passage.

People, especially women, argue that chivalry is dead. How about resurrecting it by embracing it, this time letting women have some agency? Why can’t we hold its beacon and lead the coming generations to a modern kind of chivalry where women will not have to wait for a door to be held or a bill to be paid? Where women will not be disappointed if a man is not chivalrous. Where chivalry will not be held back and finally be dead for the lack of an emissary.

 

Incarcerated Chivalry

October 6, 2015 Written By Rameesha Roy

Chivalry

It is an art. An art of prestige and privilege. It definitely has a history which refers to the manners and unparalleled etiquettes of the medieval knights, but it has transformed, like many other things, to fit in this modern era.

Image Source

Modern Chivalry

When we refer to modern chivalry, instances of doors being opened by men, meals being paid for by suited men, come to mind. Yet, why don’t we conceptualize women as being chivalrous? 

Even if you are a woman, I can bet you did not picture yourself or any other female opening a door for a man at the mention of chivalry. The point here is not to wage a war against men doing chivalrous acts. In fact, it is great that they have not forgotten the olden ways of civility. The point here, however, is that why is this only confined to men? 

As far as I know, chivalry should not  be narrowed down to a gender. It is a very colossal and unswayed practice. You don’t have to be a man to show that you are happily willing to pay for the dinner you and your spouse just had. And in my view, it should be perfectly normal for a woman to open the door of the car for her family or partner. Prejudice has extended to every other thing in our society and like those things, chivalry is also being paralyzed by the conventional stances about this trait. Why must we limit it to men only? 

It is very lovely to see a man pay for you; be it your father, brother, husband, etc. But will it be equally endearing if a mother, sister or a wife pays for the same? 

It is undoubtedly a delightful feeling to have doors opened for you by a guy. But will it be okay if a girl holds them for you?

Will a man’s ego and the society’s perceptions not stand in the way of women’s chivalry? 

The answer should be simple and affirmative but dismally, it is not. Patriarchy tethers the legs of this budding institution. The erstwhile thoughts still occlude the passage.

People, especially women, argue that chivalry is dead. How about resurrecting it by embracing it, this time letting women have some agency? Why can’t we hold its beacon and lead the coming generations to a modern kind of chivalry where women will not have to wait for a door to be held or a bill to be paid? Where women will not be disappointed if a man is not chivalrous. Where chivalry will not be held back and finally be dead for the lack of an emissary.

 

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